The Principal of Self-Creation
A long time ago a book came into my hands, called Self Creation. I still have it, although itspages are worn and cover is almost off. The book’s premise: our actions reinforce theoriginating thought behind the action. At this time I knew so little about the brain, and thisprincipal sounded like something magical to me,…
Habit – Master of Doom, or Best Friend?
The beginnings of a stream breaks free from its source and spills onto a dry landscape. With noindentation in the ground, it meanders aimlessly. But the water keeps coming, and takes thesame path. Having gone over the same spot of ground enough times, it has now carved agentle channel. Now that there’s a channel, the…
The Land of “All or Nothing”
Something I figured out about myself many years ago, is what I’ve come to call the “all ornothing syndrome.” I discovered that I viewed many situations in an all-or-nothing way; naturallygravitating toward polar extremes rather than middle ground. I’ve never done this through conscious choice. No, it has simply been how my brain works, andI’m…
Family Helper – Crisis Interventionist
When our children are young, they depend on us for almost everything. Once they’ve grown and begun raising families of their own, they still need us, but in ways quite different from before. As both a parent of adult children and a grandparent, I sometimes think of the role that I play in my family…
The Future is Unwritten
By the time I was in my late 30’s, life had taken me down a path which led to single parenthood, four kids to raise and no college education. Good fortune smiled upon me one day, however, when I landed a clerical job at a local university. The salary was modest, but it was secure,…
When Life Gives You a Do-over
There they are.. the events that sit in your past. Written in stone, unchangeable, because you can’t go back. Between then and now the years have rolled in, evermore shaping your perspective as experiences are pushed further into the rearview mirror. You’ve revisited the scenes in your mind many times and thought that if given…
A Better Year in 2021
When 2020 rolled in a year ago, we literally had no idea what lay ahead was a year which would almost defy description. A year where we would lose loved ones, lose jobs and lose our ability to mingle closely with other people. In the face of difficulty, humanity has a way of showing up…
My Journey to Self-Care
The fact is inevitable: bumps and bruises will come to us in this life and as we encounter them, we’ll develop coping strategies. Over time, strategies may become patterns and in the long run, patterns may emerge that hurt us more than they help us. But making this discovery; having an awareness of what a…
Looking for Meaning
Millions of Americans are in their mid-life years, but more and more I’ve come to see a common thread woven through the hearts of those of us who have come to this place: we are asking ourselves, “Does my life have purpose?” There is something about that 50th birthday rolling around (ok 40-somethings, you may…
Unclear on the Concept: “You Can’t Change Others”
I grew up hearing the phrase, “You can’t change others, you can only change yourself.” While my mom used to say it and I felt it must therefore be a commonly agreed upon wisdom, I didn’t fully understand what I think now, is its meaning. Even as a child, there was a responsibility that I…
A New Look at Old Limitations
Life took me down a path where at age 36, I became a single mom of four kids, without a college education. A wonderful blessing came my way and I landed a job at a local state university. It was a modest salary but now I could support my family (well, mostly) and have health…
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